To make a plant beautiful, it must be pruned and reshaped but to make a child beautiful, does it require the same?

This photo represents the beauty of crepe myrtle and all living things, but it does not reveal the hard work that went into making it so--the cutting back, pruning, shaping, and directing its designated path. Some plants, if pruned too severely, don't live through the process, but when they do, the flowers are phenomenal. It reminds me of parenting, what it takes to make a beautiful, strong child, but if the parenting is biased, frightening, unpredictable, too severe, neglectful, or filled with envy, violence or shame, it is called child abuse. The problem with child abuse is its secrecy regarding what happens behind closed doors. Friends and family might suspect it, but they usually choose to turn a blind eye, opting for the beautiful picture presented by a predator, perpetrator, or well-meaning abusive parent. It's time we all accepted the fact that outward appearances are often unreliable. So if something seems contradictory or strange in your experience, don't be so quick to persecute or pass judgment, especially if you don't know the facts. Just remember, there are two sides to every beautiful or horrid story--external appearances and the truth.