When you think it can't be done, find a mentor.

Sometimes, it takes more than courage to accomplish a goal because achievement often depends on the help of others. In this case, it’s important to find a mentor or someone who knows more than you do about the subject matter, but also one who has accomplished enough to want to help you become the best you can be. Such people are rare, so it takes determination, research and effort to find them and to get their help.

The other day, my sister sat down with the Mayor of her town because the Mayor knew and liked her fantastic son. My sister was excited about meeting the Mayor because they shared a common interest. At the present time, my sister doesn’t need a thing, but just in case, she might have a friend on her side or someone she can call on if need be. It’s nice to know someone who can help.

The trick to finding help when you need it is not only in knowing who can help but also knowing what you have to offer, even if it’s a hobby, friendship or being a good listener. Whether we know it or not, most everyone has something of value to share—even if it’s just information on how to change a flat tire. It's important to come into any relationship believing that you have value.

Sometimes, you really might have little to offer at this time, but even if you accept this as your personal truth, you can still offer assistance in whatever way you can. People are happy to know you’re willing to reciprocate and offer an even exchange now or in the future to them or to someone else. When you are able to reciprocate in some small way, they also trust that their help will be appreciated and utilized. What you have to offer might require some extra thought before you approach a possible mentor. Sometimes, all someone else needs is friendship, a good listener, or someone who understands. Later on, they might be able to use a volunteer for some reason. 

If you ask, a mentor will probably not charge for any services, so it’s always good to know what you offer, no matter how insignificant it might seem. Knowing your strengths will offset your feelings of weaknesses. Knowing exactly what you want and how a mentor can be utilized is also important. That way, the task doesn’t seem so complex or time-consuming, which makes it easier for them to say, “Yes, of course.”

So when the going gets tough, don’t be afraid to reach out and touch. Know yourself, know your assets and determine your needs.  Then reach out and ask for help with confidence that the answer will be yes because believe it or not, you're a good investment. If at first you don't succeed, be thankful that someone took the time to listen and consider your request. Every time you tell your story to a possible mentor, you build confidence, and eventually, the answer will be, “Yes!” So go for it. When you think it can't be done, find a mentor.