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SAD is a blog that encourages living with self-awareness, gratitude, and self-empowerment one day at a time; sharing stories, poems & information about overcoming adversity or trauma; building personal power and emotional intelligence. You can and must be your own hero. Call 1-800--273-TALK if you need someone to listen or need immediate advice. Leave me a message if I need to contact you.
Friday, March 6, 2020
This new education in schools agenda designed to reduce racism threatens to promote and perpetuate it.
Wednesday, January 8, 2020
Express yourself; it’s not an option.
We
are emotional beings, so it is important to find ways to release
emotional energy. Self-expression
is an attempt to clarify or
share emotions and feelings. It
allows us to release emotional energy so that we have the emotional
capacity for problem-solving, compassion, and love. Self-expression
can be achieved in many ways.
Ten
easy ways to express emotions are:
1.
Talking and sharing
2. Writing
and reflecting
3. Complaining
4. Singing
and songwriting
5.
Listening and moving to music
6.
Cooking and entertaining
7.
Drawing and painting
8.
Driving and admiring the landscape
9.
Dancing
10.
Shopping
People
who stifle their feelings and emotions get stuffed up. People who get
stuffed up, eventually get
“stuck.” When we suppress
our feelings and emotions,
we fail to connect with our emotional state of mind. We interrupt the
normal flow of thoughts. As
a result, we can become
disconnected from ourselves and others. This
leaves us vulnerable
to emotional disorders
that affect our ability to
cope with day-to-day living
and decision-making. Traumatic
events like witnessing a
tragedy and natural disasters can cause us to become emotionally
overwhelmed. Without self-expression, this can
lead to PTSD or
depression. We are emotional
beings and it’s important to have an outlet for expressing
emotions.
However
we choose to release
emotional energy,
it’s important to remember that expressing
emotions is not an option.
Willingly or
involuntarily, emotions will
be expressed. Unexpressed emotions
will eventually
rise to the surface causing us react
positively or negatively. We either express emotions and feelings in
positive or creative ways, “act
out” or “act in.” When we “act out,” unexpressed emotions
can cause us to take dangerous risks due
to stress
of holding emotions in. We
might drive recklessly or indulge in reckless or dangerous
activities. When we
“act in,” emotions are
kept in. We
might keep silent while raging
inside. This can lead
to physical and
emotional illnesses.
Any
act of releasing emotions leads to a happier, healthier life.
When you feel stuck in a
negative place, using the list above,
you can find your balance and
pull yourself from an emotional state of “stuck.”
Try each of the behaviors on the list and see what works best for
you.
Friday, November 15, 2019
Legislation to put guns in schools has been discussed, but I say, a gun is only as safe as the person who holds it. There's something about a gun that certain types of people can't understand: It kills. But crime of all crimes is, killing for sport--whether it's aimed at people or animals.
The head of an active male
-prose poem by EmH Johnson
-prose poem by EmH Johnson
A
predator knows the feeling of love–loaded gun, sharp hunting knife,
the head of an active male. Love is ripping the face from a lion,
watching the blood spill and clot into a shiny mask of screaming red
and burgundy undertones, yellow eyes grown vengeful and cold, the
slit openings now round as black marbles, a muffled roar more like a
grumble, drooping head as though disgraced in being so exposed.
But
not every ounce of the animal is defiled. A subtle defiance remains
and you can feel the hot breath of its existence. The breathing in
and out, slow and melodic, is soothing to the ear; a pair of gigantic
paws and outstretched claws served their master well. The head and
coat must be carefully preserved. I
savor thought of frenzied bidding at the open marketplace and ponder
the final price to be paid for a trophy brought down in such an
explosive escapade.
Taking
the life of something beautiful comes easy when you keep your wits
about you, keep your emotions in check so that you rise above the
fray. They want to shut it down, the killing, but it serves a
purpose. It’s giving humanitarian aid to those starving in places
you never want to see, not really, especially not the children. You
simply want to pay for the thrill of it, nothing more. The fat cats
up on The Hill want to take our guns, but it’s not the firearms.
It’s the absence of fire in my soul. I kill so I can live
peacefully. I will die fighting for my constitutional right, unlike
the lion. It fights because that’s what a lion does, nothing more
or less.
Monday, November 11, 2019
Robyn Crawford wrote a book about Whitney Houston; I wrote a poem.
I watched as Robyn Crawford, friend and confidante to the late Whitney Houston, talked about her newly released book, A Song for You: My Life with Whitney Houston. I was reminded of a poem I wrote after hearing the sad news of Whitney's death.
During the interview, I felt the angst of riding an "emotional roller-coaster" with a loved one whose life was being transformed by drugs. Whitney Houston clearly experienced joy and pain. She died at a time in life when women transition into a new phase of maturity. Some adapt very well while others do not. At this stage of her life, Whitney appeared to be struggling.
Most fans hoped Whitney Houston might overcome obstacles, given enough support. As she spiraled out of control, her fans wondered why loved ones abandoned her. But if information in Robyn Crawford's book is accurate, Whitney abandoned loved ones, not the other way around.
The day it was reported Whitney Houston had died, I expressed my grief in the following poem:
During the interview, I felt the angst of riding an "emotional roller-coaster" with a loved one whose life was being transformed by drugs. Whitney Houston clearly experienced joy and pain. She died at a time in life when women transition into a new phase of maturity. Some adapt very well while others do not. At this stage of her life, Whitney appeared to be struggling.
Most fans hoped Whitney Houston might overcome obstacles, given enough support. As she spiraled out of control, her fans wondered why loved ones abandoned her. But if information in Robyn Crawford's book is accurate, Whitney abandoned loved ones, not the other way around.
The day it was reported Whitney Houston had died, I expressed my grief in the following poem:
“Tribute to Whitney Houston” © 2012 by M. H. Johnson
So
many people watching, some hoped to see you fall
Side-stepping this, performing that, you
tried to do it all.
You
found your voice in a Newark church at a very early age
But then you found your purpose and the
joy of a global stage.
You
sang to us with a golden voice gifted straight from Heaven.
Your
beauty, grace and resonance will warm our hearts forever.
You ventured on a journey that led to a
fall from grace
While
accolades and honors hid the demons that you faced.
You found love and married, a soul mate,
so it seemed
Despite the joy of wedded bliss, you were struggling.
You
found your strength and self-esteem, regained dignity
While
cameras and performances disgraced you on TV.
Rare as lilacs in December, a diva in
distress,
You stood and fell and rose again in
haunting loveliness!
But perfection has its price and there
comes a reckoning day
In summer’s wane or winter’s frost,
the Maker has His say.
Nothing
ventured, nothing gained, an angel’s quiet confession
You walked a journey of your own seeking
love and perfection
But
you never seemed to realize the gifts at your command
Your
value to a desperate world you didn’t quite understand.
But
we are only burdened with as much as we can take.
He walked a path alongside you then
ushered you away.
Whitney Elizabeth Houston, the world
wishes you well.
You will be missed by a universe, but
now you can exhale.
Monday, September 30, 2019
When you get a handle on a daily routine, one day at a time you'll be ready for writing.
Surviving a day requires a strategy, a master plan, and it requires good health. It helps that you write, especially poetry. To write poetry you need to start reading poetry and reading about poetry. You'll be inspired. Good writing starts with a healthy body and mind.
Start with deep breathing when you awake, drinking two glasses of warm water 45 minutes before breakfast, eating meals that contain NO white or processed bread, pasta, biscuits, pastry and NO fast foods at breakfast time. Keep your intake of chemicals reduced all day, in fact. This will help steady your emotions, calm your nerves, and regulate your metabolism. Eating the right foods, especially at the start of your day takes some effort, but it makes a HUGE difference. Coffee is okay, without sugar, and a good breakfast has a nice balance of protein and carbohydrates. I like a product that I'm not paid to recommend. It has 25 grams of protein. Eggs don't have nearly as much protein, but some people prefer them for breakfast. I suggest organic eggs because if my eggs are NOT organic, I have sinus issues and feel shaky all day. Shaking like a leaf, how can you function, how can you stay sober, how can you provide good customer service without smoking, vaping, drugging or drinking?
If you want to have a great day, start with a good breakfast.Then catch no more than 5 minutes of NEWS; it's too depressing. Find 5 -10 minutes for meditation or silent words of gratitude and 10 minutes of walking three times a week. Find an ideal time to do 5 minutes of writing EVERY day you can. Increase to 20 minutes slowly, one day at a time. Create a writing routine that is easy to follow and choose a place where it's easy to be writing. Start with brief writings, and follow this routine every day. You will see your life circumstances start to improve, ONE DAY AT A TIME, which is not an eternity; it's only 24 hours.
Let tomorrow come, but it's only about surviving one day--today. When you get a handle on a daily routine, one day at a time you'll be ready for writing. I like starting with poetry because poetry demands FOCUS, and it forces me out of my comfort zone. No matter how you feel, poetry requires your very best effort, every time. It does not care who you are or what problems are brewing; its only concern is that you let the poem be itself. This requires concentration and it requires your full attention. Poetry requires letting go of anything that interrupts the out-flow of a good poem. It takes your mind off of YOU.
Poetry uplifts and inspires, offers a different perspective than the one you're hanging on to or that's hanging on to you. Once you write a master plan for how you will conduct your life day to day, and once you eliminate processed foods and find at least 10 minutes of walking or exercise, you will be ready to write, not just anything, but something meaningful. Maybe it will be poetic--or not, but it will be your best and that is as good as it gets.
Start with deep breathing when you awake, drinking two glasses of warm water 45 minutes before breakfast, eating meals that contain NO white or processed bread, pasta, biscuits, pastry and NO fast foods at breakfast time. Keep your intake of chemicals reduced all day, in fact. This will help steady your emotions, calm your nerves, and regulate your metabolism. Eating the right foods, especially at the start of your day takes some effort, but it makes a HUGE difference. Coffee is okay, without sugar, and a good breakfast has a nice balance of protein and carbohydrates. I like a product that I'm not paid to recommend. It has 25 grams of protein. Eggs don't have nearly as much protein, but some people prefer them for breakfast. I suggest organic eggs because if my eggs are NOT organic, I have sinus issues and feel shaky all day. Shaking like a leaf, how can you function, how can you stay sober, how can you provide good customer service without smoking, vaping, drugging or drinking?
If you want to have a great day, start with a good breakfast.Then catch no more than 5 minutes of NEWS; it's too depressing. Find 5 -10 minutes for meditation or silent words of gratitude and 10 minutes of walking three times a week. Find an ideal time to do 5 minutes of writing EVERY day you can. Increase to 20 minutes slowly, one day at a time. Create a writing routine that is easy to follow and choose a place where it's easy to be writing. Start with brief writings, and follow this routine every day. You will see your life circumstances start to improve, ONE DAY AT A TIME, which is not an eternity; it's only 24 hours.
Let tomorrow come, but it's only about surviving one day--today. When you get a handle on a daily routine, one day at a time you'll be ready for writing. I like starting with poetry because poetry demands FOCUS, and it forces me out of my comfort zone. No matter how you feel, poetry requires your very best effort, every time. It does not care who you are or what problems are brewing; its only concern is that you let the poem be itself. This requires concentration and it requires your full attention. Poetry requires letting go of anything that interrupts the out-flow of a good poem. It takes your mind off of YOU.
Poetry uplifts and inspires, offers a different perspective than the one you're hanging on to or that's hanging on to you. Once you write a master plan for how you will conduct your life day to day, and once you eliminate processed foods and find at least 10 minutes of walking or exercise, you will be ready to write, not just anything, but something meaningful. Maybe it will be poetic--or not, but it will be your best and that is as good as it gets.
Tuesday, July 9, 2019
Our moral emotions--shame, guilt embarrassment and remorse--assure our moral integrity, whether people are watching or not.
Emotional “shaming” may or may not require action, but it
requires acknowledgment.
Have
you ever stayed on the phone with a close relative or friend
bad-mouthing another close relative or friend and lived to regret it?
Did you notice the guilt, shame, remorse or embarrassment you felt
after the conversation ended? You were simply telling the truth, but
did you go too far? If you violated your sense of what’s morally
right, your moral emotions were switched on and you felt emotionally
“shamed.” For some people, the moral reprimand is too much to bear, but
usually, we remember to take the moral high ground next time around.
Moral emotions provide immediate punishment or reward. “Moral
emotions provide the motivational force—the power and energy—to
do good and to avoid doing bad (Kroll & Egan 2004).” Moral
emotions are based on intentions and what we know to be wrong or
right. We are emotionally uplifted or emotionally shamed as a
result. When such emotions as shame, guilt, embarrassment or remorse
show up, our emotional system is letting us know we violated some
rule about morality. We feel spiritually diminished. On the other
hand, when we do what we inherently know to be right, we feel pride
and self-approval. Our self-esteem is heightened and we feel
spiritually uplifted.
In
the battle between what is morally wrong or right, our
emotional system is our guide. Our emotional system knows when we
went too far and won’t let us rest until we acknowledge this. With
such strong emotional feedback, we monitor ourselves when it comes to
taking the moral high ground. Being sent a warning signal in the
form of shame, guilt, embarrassment or remorse, we follow what we
have been taught in our treatment of others and in determining right
from wrong.
Whether
we owe someone an apology is a matter of circumstance, quality of the relationship, or what we have been taught. Emotional “shaming”
may or may not require action but it requires acknowledgment. When
Joe Biden shared publicly that he had negotiated and worked well with
members of the opposing party, he was commending himself. When
confronted about the ambiguous situation of keeping with the enemy,
he defended his integrity and his actions. In so doing, he became an
easy target for other presidential contenders. After the backlash and
drop of popularity in the polls, he reconsidered his original
statement and offered an apology to would-be voters. Was it simply
fear of rejection that caused him to apologize or one of the moral
emotions--shame, guilt, embarrassment or remorse? This is clearly a
question only Joe Biden can answer, but until he acknowledged his
emotions, they wouldn’t let him rest.
Our
emotional system offers punishments and rewards that control our
behavior towards each other. Our moral emotions--shame, guilt, embarrassment and remorse--are strong motivators. They assure our
moral integrity, whether people are watching or not. They are the
gate-keepers of our humanity and in case of violations, they demand
to be acknowledged. They are an important aspect of our emotional and societal well-being, and they accept nothing less than what an
individual has been taught by society, parents and relationships: “Do
unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
Thursday, June 20, 2019
As we gain confidence by responding appropriately and maintaining positive relationships with others, we acquire the best skills to effectively manage ourselves and become masters at living a positive, purposeful life.
Everything
I know, I learned by Mistake: 111 Ways to Inspire Emotional Mastery is a book that focuses on building emotional competence one day at a time. It is a
collection of my positive thoughts accumulated one day at a time. It will be published later in 2019.
In
discussions of numerology, the number 111 represents inner-wisdom,
intuition, and optimism. This number reflects spiritual guidance,
mindfulness and encouragement, and it signifies an energetic and purposeful mission toward achieving our spiritual life purpose.This book
focuses on building strong emotional competence through
self-awareness, awareness of others, and writing as a form of
self-expression. I write what I have learned because
knowledge is meant to be shared, and sharing strengthens bonds
between people.
In
this life, I have faced disappointments, trauma, loss of family and
friends, workplace bullying, harassment and more, but like so
many others, I have survived and overcome what might have been
insurmountable obstacles. In the process of overcoming setbacks and
adapting to changes in my life, I have rediscovered my mission in life: to make a difference.
Beginning
in childhood, we build emotional intelligence and gain a sense of
emotional mastery, which includes the ability to respond
appropriately to others every time, despite circumstances. As we
gain confidence by responding appropriately and maintaining positive
relationships with others, we
achieve emotional competence and acquire the ability to effectively
manage ourselves and others. We become masters at living a positive,
purposeful life.
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